Marriage is so freaking hard. It really is. It is also one of the best things that I have ever been able to do and I am so grateful to have been given the opportunity to marry someone that I love.
But again. Freaking hard.
There are days where I always think "man, I feel like I am DOING SO MUCH" and I am not taking into consideration how much my partner is also doing. I am selfish most of the time without even realizing it and I need to realize it because if you don't you are going to start damaging your relationship. I don't like to admit that I am wrong which also impacts my thought process and again, selfish of me.
We are all guilty of it. Acting like we do everything and the other does nothing. EVEN IF WE CAN PHYSICALLY SEE them doing things, yep we do more.
That has to stop. You are a team. This isn't a one way street where one person is better than the other. You chose to get married make it work or don't that is up to you. But if you are going to be in a relationship together you need to understand a few things.
You both are equally valuable.
Stop being so damn selfish.
Treat each other with kindness and respect.
Love the crap out of each other even when you are mad.
Stop acting like you do more than the other and if you ACTUALLY DO then do something about it. Talk about it.
Stop assuming that because one works and the other doesn't that makes one better than the other.
Laugh together and love one another.
CONSTANTLY support and uplift each others hopes and dreams.
Act like a team.
Work together & not against each other.
TALK do not yell. Where does yelling ever get anyone? nowhere.
Remember no relationship or marriage is perfect so stop acting like yours is and if yours is hit me up with some tips.
We all get caught up in our own stuff..our own problems and our own selves. Take a step back for a second and realize that maybe your actions are causing some sort of damage to them or to even you. I know that I get so caught up in myself and what I AM doing that I forget about how much of a positive impact my partner is doing in the home and in our marriage.
Again. I am selfish sometimes. He is selfish sometimes.
We are a team and we have to remember to act like it.
I wish I didn't always feel like I have to "earn" people's love. I wish just being myself was enough.
i feel like i've lost my best friend and that breaks my heart.
i feel like i'm drowning and no one notices.