I have to admit I am guilty of picking at myself regularly and sometimes I tend to be negative toward myself in front of my children. I think we are all guilty of being hard on ourselves and we don’t even realize that we are doing it. We are constantly worried about how we look and how others may view us that we don't even realize WHO we are impacting. If you have children there are always little ones watching you and listening to everything you say.
They are sponges and they absorb everything they hear and say and eventually if they hear it enough they will start to believe it. If you are negative about your body image and you are constantly picking yourself apart then they will grow up thinking that their bodies are more important then their health and happiness.We want our children to grow up caring about their body but in a positive way. We want them to be healthy and to make good choices, treat their bodies with kindness and respect but more importantly we want them to be happy day to day when it comes to their body image.
If we continue to pick ourselves apart they will grow up picking themselves apart and at the end of the day it doesn't matter what other people think of how we look it is more important that we are happy with how we feel.
You can sit there and tell your children to love who they are and to love how they were made and that they are perfect the way that they are...however they will always have that pressure from social media, friends, celebrities on tv. so how can we help them realize that none of that is important.
If you are positive about your body image then your children just might do the same as they grow up. Set that example because they are constantly watching and listening even from a young age. If weight is all that you focus on then they will grow up with that complex that they must constantly worry about their weight and appearance. Being healthy is important but body shaming is a NO NO. Stop body shaming yourself and STOP BODY SHAMING OTHERS. That is key.
We don't want our children to hate on themselves and more importantly we don't want them to hate on others, the littlest comment that you make can make a huge impact on them.
Your children do NOT care about how you look they just want you happy they want a happy parent and a happy positive role model. There is too much negativity out there and it doesn't help when we are so hard on ourselves they don't need that added to their already growing minds.
It is okay to say things like "some people are bigger than others, it is okay to look different" But more importantly we need to be saying WE ARE ALL perfect because what is inside of us is what counts, we will constantly be changing when it comes to appearance but who we are as people on the INSIDE is what people will carry forever. Not how you look. So stop body shaming because you know you are better than that and more important than that and stop body shaming because your children are watching.
Love and respect yourself always
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