I have to say one of the hardest things to balance in our house is creating equal time with each child every day. I know it can be difficult with jobs, school, after school activities and afternoon chores and dinner. So where do we find the time and how do we explain to them that there just aren’t enough hours in the day to have that solid one on one time? You just don’t sometimes. Some days you may just see everyone together at dinner and bath time and that is just going to have to be enough that day. Or after school someone has soccer and everyone goes as a family and cheers together, that may just have to be that quality time together. It is really hard to explain to children that the little things such as watching a movie is considered quality time, or watching videos or even just sitting around the dinner table eating and talking about your day.
At my home everything is taken personally. If someone cannot simply have one hour with just one child alone it is an instant meltdown not only that the other kids get jealous and it is just a show in itself. There just isn’t enough energy and time after school and work to cram in good time together and it is hard because our children are so small they instantly think they did something wrong or that we just don’t want to hang out. That isn’t the case but explaining that to them doesn’t matter because they just don’t understand, and that is okay. But how can we spend time with our children in the middle of the daily mess and actually make it count.
Cook meals together, spend that time teaching them how to measure out things, how to stir and make a sauce. Have them set the table and help everyone dish up. Taco Tuesday is fun, you can set up dinner on the counter buffet style and everyone can have fun and enjoy making their own dishes. Repair and fix broken things around the house. You needed to do it anyway so why not include one or all children and have them help you. Not only is this a great educational moment but you are getting great quality time together. Board games are a hit at my home. We like to do pizza friday’s and watch a new movie and play board games. You are having a nice time together playing a game as well as eating a meal and watching a new movie. What an awesome combo. Work on the car, add oil, change the spark-plugs. Change light bulbs together, paint trim on the house.
All of these small things are huge things to them and they will grow up forever having those little moments in their hearts.
At the end of it don’t be so hard on yourself. We are only human and being a parent is really hard. Kids really don’t care how elaborate the task is that you do together they just want to hang out. Do what you can and as long as you are good to your kids they will be good to you and that is what they will carry with them into adulthood. The rest is just a huge added bonus.
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