Haven't you ever heard that term? Damned if I do, Damned if I don't? It is a phrase that can literally be applied to almost every situation in life. If you aren't familiar with the term it pretty much means THAT situation is a lose lose and to whom? everyone but you. Everyone who SHOULDN'T have an opinion that apparently does.
Which sucks because everyone makes choices in their home and about their parenting that is what is best for them however, everyone else has to make an opinion and will always spin it around as if you are a bad guy or you just must not care.
So what is the deal with working parents why can't we just go to work and make an income, spend time away from the home for our own sanity AND the come home and be the parent we want to be without judgement. Oh you must not care about your kids. You must not want to be home with them or you must not care that they are in daycare and would rather work then be with them. Have you ever stopped to think that maybe those working parents would love to be home but can't. Maybe it is about money, freedom, I don't know maybe they LIKE to work? but it doesn't matter why you choose to work someone is going to have an opinion.
Then you have the deal with stay at home parents. They may be home with their kids because they are able to. Like me I am in a very blessed situation to where I can be home with mine throughout the week while my husband works and I am able to work from home. Does that make me lazy? not to go out and work outside of the home? to some yeah. Am I using my husband as an excuse NOT to go to work outside of the home? I sure have heard it and it is completely bogus and not at all true. But again so many people like to assume your reasoning for working outside of the home or working inside of the home or maybe not even working at all.
So let me get this straight.
Damned if I work. Damned if I don't.
See what I mean?
So the problem here isn't that I am doing what is best for MY family just like every other household...it is the fact that no matter what I do as a parent if I work or not it becomes everyone else's business. Why is that. Why can't society just bunk off and mind their own? it sucks because we all work in our own way but to others it just isn't enough. I work inside of the home because I am able to earn some while being home, not everyone can do that but it is what works best for me. Just like everyone else is working where and however they choose because it works for them.
So if you work outside of the home good on ya! If you work from home ALSO good on ya! If you are doing what is best for your family never think that because if you work outside of the home you are any different of a parent that one who works inside of the home.
And if you are a judgy mc judge pants who likes to put others down due to where they work or if they even work you need to find a hobby and be more supportive of the people in your life vs making someone feel bad about their work choices.
If you work from home, outside of the home or maybe you aren't working right now. Good for you because you are doing what is best for your home.
i feel like i've lost my best friend and that breaks my heart.
motherhood is anything but glamorous. it's 9:30pm. my four and two year old are still up waiting for dinner watching avatar with daddy who's currently fairly bedridden. my ten month old is screaming for mommy. mommy now gets to nurse while going potty for second time today. yay.
i can't stop crying. i try so hard but am reminded over and over that i'm not enough and never will be.